即便不喜欢现实,也要承认现实
人们讨厌听到坏消息 或任何与他们现有的观点和结论不一致的内容。因此,如果某些事情可能令人痛苦,人类的大脑就会开始行动,设法否认现实。心理学家丹尼尔·卡尼曼是诺贝尔奖获得者,他认为:“(人们甚至不想投入)最少的精力去设法切实搞清楚他们做错了什么,此事并非偶然,而是因为他们就是不想知道。” ...
人们讨厌听到坏消息 或任何与他们现有的观点和结论不一致的内容。因此,如果某些事情可能令人痛苦,人类的大脑就会开始行动,设法否认现实。心理学家丹尼尔·卡尼曼是诺贝尔奖获得者,他认为:“(人们甚至不想投入)最少的精力去设法切实搞清楚他们做错了什么,此事并非偶然,而是因为他们就是不想知道。” ...
任何形式的预测都只是投机 投资是一种概率性的活动,用很合理的方式做出的决定有时结果反而很糟糕。即使有时决策者制订了完善的计划,并顺利实施,还是会产生不利的结果。然而,从长远看,把重点放在遵循正确的流程,而非任何具体的中间结果,总归是明智的。 ...
多年形成的认知,并非你只言片语能唤醒的。 弃医从文也救不了中国人 这个世界上最难的两件事情,一是把别人的钱放进自己的口袋,二是把自己的思想装进别人的脑袋。第一件事情触及别人的利益,第二件事情触及别人的灵魂。 ...
比起巨大的回报,财富的安全更重要。 极端的成功在很大程度上取决于运气。 投资理财不全是靠运气。这可能有点像打牌,有相当的运气成分,但是也有一定的技术。 个人的金钱投资在很大程度上跟心理学有关系。 投资行为跟人的过去经历很有关系,这是因为过去的经历能影响人的心理。 第 1 章 没有人真的对钱失去理智 在美国,收入最低的家庭平均每年花在彩票上的钱是 412 美元,这是那些高收入家庭购买彩票金额的 4 倍。有 40%的美国人在急需用钱的时候连 400 美元都拿不出来,也就是说,那些每年花 400 美元买彩票的人基本就是这些在急需用钱的时候拿不出 400 美元的人。他们将原本可以为自己提供保障的 400 美元押注在了一个仅有百万分之一的中奖机会上。 ...
你敬畏天理,他崇拜权威, 这是世界观不同; 你站在良知一边,他站在强者一边, 这是价值观不同; 你努力是为理想的生活, 他努力是做人上人, 这是人生观不同。 ...
1 - Understanding human nature People are, above all, interested in themselves. Yup. Sorry. No matter who you are people will always be a thousand times more interested in themselves than in you. No judgment here. People’s actions are governed by self-interest. In every human relationship, your counterpart will always think or ask themselves “what’s in it for me?” Remember this question “What’s in it for me?” By the way, you’re asking this question in all your interactions too, consciously or subconsciously. ...
权力法则 1 永远不要盖过上司的光芒 在取悦他们或给他们留下深刻印象的同时,不要过分显露你的才华,否则会适得其反——引发他的恐惧和不安。 权力法则 2 永远不要太信任朋友,学会如何利用敌人 ...
大家好,欢迎收听深爱玩财的最后一期节目,我是 JS 静姝,那至于今后会是什么博客或者其他的内容,我会留在下一期,也就是新播客的第一期跟大家讲。那今天最后一期了,我就发个疯吧,我申请林博主的脸也不要了,反正也不做了。那我就来说一句我一直很想说的话,就是学霸猫有毒,那我今天也不想玩什么不评判,然后,唉,善意揣测这样一些身心灵语境下的游戏了,因为如果我抱着这样的想法当然没错,但是我话就说不明白,这句话也永远说不出来。 ...
恐惧和愤怒使得他们失去了思考的能力。他们开始变得特别擅长做些荒唐事,损害自己的利益。所以,你要学会的第一件事就是掌控这两种情绪。
借助武力手段换不来长久的胜利,败者迟早会报复回来的。这种胜利在人类历史上出现过很多次,但是它们或早或晚都会转变成深重的灾难 —— 因为通过武力得到的胜利本身就在未来埋下了一颗失败的种子,而这场失败的到来只不过是个时间问题。 ...
在分歧与冲突当中,谁能保持冷静,谁就是最强者。只有这个人能够掌控一切,而冷静是阻止矛盾激化的唯一途径。
唱反调和做评判是永远不会有效的,”智者评价道,“反之,还会加剧冲突。然而这却是每一个试图安抚别人的人下意识去做的事。
当某人拒绝我们做某事的时候,我们的第一反应是向他解释为什么他要接受我们的提议。而一旦他没有选择让步,我们就会继续解释,或者提出更多的论据。我们想通过自己的解释强迫别人接受,而对方却和我们做着同样的事。这就如同两个聋人之间进行对话:‘不是的,因为 ……’ ,‘是的,因为 ……’ ,‘不是的,因为 ……’ ,‘是的,因为 ……’ 没完没了。但其实一个简单的词就可以扭转局面 —— 为什么,一个十分简单但是威力无穷的词语。 ...
当别人拒绝你的某项提议时,你首先需要对其背后的原因表现出兴趣,态度要尽可能诚恳。你可以问‘您为什么不同意呢?’,然后认真倾听他的回答。他的回答就像一座金矿一样,包含很多值得推敲和利用的信息。这就是秘诀。 ...
避免陷入解释、威胁和人身攻击的怪圈当中。 第一步 平复自己的情绪当我们感觉内心出现了想要攻击对方的冲动时,我们需要尽力抑制住它。比如,我们可以通过故事中提到的几种方法做到这一点: · 纠正对事实的误判; · 通过深呼吸来分散注意力; · 或只需收住自己想要伸出的拳头; · 或其他任何一种可能奏效的方法。在与人交流的过程中,每当你感到内心再次燃起了这种冲动,就需要在脑海里回顾这一步。完成这一步只需要几秒钟的时间,这大概是最难完成,也是最重要的一步。如果你并没有攻击对方的冲动,那自然更好。你就可以直接进入下一步了。 ...
The less you want something, the less you’re thinking about it, the less you’re obsessing over it, the more you’re going to do it in a natural way. The more you’re going to do it for yourself. You’re going to do it in a way you’re good at, and you’re going to stick with it. The people around you will see the quality of your work is higher. ...
If someone can train other people how to do something, then they can replace you. If they can replace you, then they don’t have to pay you a lot. You want to know how to do something other people don’t know how to do at the time period when those skills are in demand.
Think about what product or service society wants but does not yet know how to get. You want to become the person who delivers it and delivers it at scale. That is really the challenge of how to make money. Now, the problem is becoming good at whatever “it” is. It moves around from generation to generation, but a lot of it happens to be in technology. ...
The most interesting and the most important form of leverage is the idea of products that have no marginal cost of replication. This is the new form of leverage. This was only invented in the last few hundred years. It started with the printing press. It accelerated with broadcast media, and now it’s really blown up with the internet and with coding. Now, you can multiply your efforts without involving other humans and without needing money from other humans. ...
One form of leverage is labor—other humans working for you. It is the oldest form of leverage, and actually not a great one in the modern world. [1] I would argue this is the worst form of leverage that you could possibly use. Managing other people is incredibly messy. It requires tremendous leadership skills. You’re one short hop from a mutiny or getting eaten or torn apart by the mob. [78] Money is good as a form of leverage. It means every time you make a decision, you multiply it with money. [1] Capital is a trickier form of leverage to use. It’s more modern. It’s the one that people have used to get fabulously wealthy in the last century. It’s probably been the dominant form of leverage in the last century. You can see this by looking for the richest people. It’s bankers, politicians in corrupt countries who print money, essentially people who move large amounts of money around. If you look at the top of very large companies, outside of technology companies, in many, many large old companies, the CEO job is really a financial job. It scales very, very well. If you get good at managing capital, you can manage more and more capital much more easily than you can manage more and more people. The final form of leverage is brand new—the most democratic form. It is: “products with no marginal cost of replication.” This includes books, media, movies, and code. Code is probably the most powerful form of permissionless leverage. All you need is a computer—you don’t need anyone’s permission. ...