Self Help

A strong man cannot help a weaker unless the weaker is willing to be helped, and even then the weak man must become strong of himself; he must, by his own efforts, develop the strength which he admires in another. None but himself can alter his condition.

2023个人认为获取幸福感的最佳方式

个人觉得获得幸福的最佳方法是把生活从网络游戏变成单机游戏。网络游戏比如吃鸡或者王者农药，你需要比别人技术好，装备比别人牛，连皮肤都要比一比。强中自有强中手，你失意是大概率事件。但是如果我们把生活换成单机游戏呢？比如塞尔达，你只要和自己比就可以了。每一步都幸福感满满。投射到现实就是，身材要比别人好，房子要比别人大，车子要比别人豪。天天想着当人上人，要压过别人，注定很难幸福。个人认为正确的方法是：买了房不用老搬家了，开心。买了车不用挤地铁了，开心。买了洗碗机不用洗碗了，开心… ...

浪费时间是最大的痛苦

Time-Related Pains Most productivity-related issues cause temporal pain: people feel like they’re wasting time. These pains are caused by suboptimal processes and friction between tasks. If tedious work takes a lot of time, it keeps you from doing important and useful things instead. That leads to time mismanagement and relevant actions not being taken. By solving the time-related problem, productive tasks can be accomplished faster and sooner. When people complain about inefficiencies, tedium, or pointless work, you’re looking at a time-related problem. ...

Reputation What parts of your skill set do you need to

Efficiency What keeps you from being more efficient at work? Why can’t you do more of what you do? Which tasks feel like they are a drag? Effectiveness What limits you from doing your job the right way? Which tasks are the most pointless? What annoys you about working with competitive products? What is your experience like with each of them? Financials Where are you spending too much on tools? Where are you spending too much on consulting? What is your budget for software tools? What is your budget for outsourcing work? ...

从一个目标中，你通常可以推断出一个阻碍他成功之路的问题

From a goal, you can usually infer a problem that is in the way of your customers’ path to success. Solve that problem, and you can help everyone in the niche reach their goals.

The better you define your niche market, the more confident you can be in your numbers.

Shared interests will allow you to speak to the needs of your niche audience directly. Creating content that has a lot of impact and will be read by a lot of people will be easier, as there is less competition for your audience’s attention.

选择正确的方向会更轻松

A bootstrapped business works best when it starts out in a niche. Most companies will do really well by just staying there. Some expand into other markets. But that initial audience is one of the most important things to carefully select when you start a business.

总被领导派去做杂活怎么办？

先做个分类，核心 KPI 占用时间精力至少 60%以上。如果其他的杂活占用高于这个，就和领导沟通一下。不要抱怨活多，而是和领导说，担心影响核心 KPI 的完成度与质量。通常领导有临时的杂活给你，多半不会考虑到你的工作量，可能就是随手指派的，或者他觉得交给你还 OK，不能惯。 ...

给自己的一些建议

关于读书：养成一个读书习惯比读什么书更重要。我主要在 Kindle 上买书，用 iPad 阅读。目前在重读一些物理、历史、哲学相关的书。关于习惯：早上健身 30 分钟是我最重要的习惯。另外习惯有冥想、阅读、减少饮酒和咖啡。 ...

自由思考比畅所欲言更重要。

在思想和言论之间划一条明确的界线。在心里无所不想，但是不一定要说出来。我就鼓励自己在心里默默思考那些最无法无天的想法。你的思想是一个地下组织，绝不要把那里发生的事情一股脑说给外人听。“格斗俱乐部”的第一条规则，就是不要提到格斗俱乐部 ...

如果别人告诉你应该相信什么，你就真的相信了，那么你就会和别人一样犯下同样的错误。

也许事情并没有这么巧合，你的观点就是从别人那里听来的，别人告诉你什么，你就相信了什么，你把别人灌输的观点当作了自己的观点。有时候，别人会对你说：“要根据社会需要，改造自己的思想 (well-adjusted) 。”这种说法隐含的意思似乎是，如果你不认同社会，那么肯定是你自己的问题。你同意这种说法吗？事实上，它不仅不对，而且会让历史倒退。如果你真的相信了它，凡是不认同社会之处，你连想都不敢想，马上就放弃自己的观点，那才会真正出问题。 ...

The Five Parts of Every Business

1. Creates and delivers something of value . . 2. That other people want or need . . . 3. At a price they’re willing to pay . . . 4. In a way that satisfies the customer’s needs and expectations . . . 5. So that the business brings in enough profit to make it worthwhile for the owners to continue operation. ...

If you find something broken that you can fix for a lot of people, you’ve found a gold mine.

Every successful business creates something of value. The world is full of opportunities to make other people’s lives better in some way, and your job as a businessperson is to identify things that people don’t have enough of, then find a way to provide them.

put all your eggs in one basket and watch the basket very carefully.

The mistake 98% of money managers and individuals make is they feel like they have got to be playing with a bunch of of stuff. And if you really see it, put all your eggs in one basket and watch the basket very carefully.

The less he spoke, the more he heard

When you accept how true that statement is, you realize that aligning money towards a life that lets you do what you want, when you want, with who you want, where you want, for as long as you want, has incredible return.

每一句话都是无数踩过的坑

1、很多人的正确决定都无疾而终：去问一个只骑过自行车的人，理想汽车值不值得买？问一个从来没从股权投资中获益的人，要不要做梅花 LP？……做错的决定和错过的决定很多时候都因为你去咨询的人不对。有一种出馊主意的方式是：我是为你好。遇到不如你的人，要坚定自己的想法。遇到和你差不多的人，要怀疑自己的想法。遇到比你优秀的人，要否定自己的想法。 ...

If you can’t decide, the answer is no.

Making Decisions in a World of Endless Options Common Life Questions Should I marry this person? Should I take this job? Should I buy this house? Should I move to this city? Should I go into business with this person? The Answer When You Can’t Decide If you cannot decide, the answer is no. The reason is that modern society is full of options. There are countless choices available. We live on a planet of seven billion people, and we are connected to everyone via the internet. There are hundreds of thousands of careers available to you. With so many choices, it’s essential to be clear and decisive. ...

Read what you love until you love to read.

You almost have to read the stuff you’re reading, because you’re into it. You don’t need any other reason. There’s no mission here to accomplish. Just read because you enjoy it.

Principal-Agent Problem

只有确保利益绑定，才能从根本上降低代理人问题，最大限度的保护我们自己的利益。 To me, the principal-agent problem is the single most fundamental problem in microeconomics. If you do not understand the principal-agent problem, you will not know how to navigate your way through the world. It is important if you want to build a successful company or be successful in your dealings. ...

沟通的艺术：提问的力量

问别人一个问题，就是给别人一个讲话的机会拒绝与解释的循环当某人拒绝我们做某事的时候，我们的第一反应通常是向他解释为什么他应该接受我们的提议。如果对方没有选择让步，我们往往会继续解释，或者提出更多的论据。我们试图通过自己的解释强迫别人接受，而对方却也在做着同样的事情。这就如同两个聋人之间的对话：“不是的，因为……”，“是的，因为……”，“不是的，因为……”，“是的，因为……”，没完没了。 ...

This is what it is

I never ask if “I like it” or “I don’t like it.” I think “this is what it is” or “this is what it isn’t.”